The Identity Thieves
When I had my first baby over 7 years ago my whole world changed… I know you know this happens, everyone says it; the world seems bigger and smaller simultaneously, not to mention scarier! Popping to the shops no longer exists, nor do last minute breaks away or nights out til 3am. When Josie was a few months old my cousin said something that has suck with me… “Don’t loose yourself in all of this”. At first I thought all of what?... I totally love the 100% dedication to my new daughter. But after a few years and a second child I realised I had lost a portion of me, even my name was different- Josie’s Mum or OfBoadie (watch Handmaids Tale for reference), I was 100% claimed as theirs.
It was like 2 tiny thieves came in the night and stole my identity (as well as my sleep) and replaced it with something that looked similar but in a parallel parenting universe, where I listen to Moanna not Moloko, dance to The Wheels on the Bus not Blur and opt for Andy’s Dinosaurs not Dirty Dancing.
So why am I posting all this… not so long ago we put out a poll for our FAMBINGO night (a gig at TF where families get together play some bingo, with singing and dancing… it’s a little bit crazy). The poll asked if you wanted to add a Disney theme or 90’s Brit Pop to the proceeding…. To my delight Brit Pop gained the higher percentage, you guys have great taste… our play list for the bingo will be rocking… (I was blur over Oasis btw). This got my thinking that not everything for the kids has to be totally saturated in their likes, wants, needs… Balance is key… we try to aim for this at TF- a space for all humans (I know how important it is to have a bit of you in the mix too)
Join us Fambingo 14th Sept 3-6pm, from £4, free for under 2’s, tickets at TF and eventbrite.co.uk
How times have changed…
From the age of 17 I was out every weekend, you know out out, when make-up and getting dressed up took as long as the night out itself. My pre drink of choice…Lambrini!! I know… don’t!
At the ripe old age of 37 I don’t drink, a whiff of alcohol gives me a hangover from hell and these days I haven’t got the time to lol* about watching 7 episodes of Lost on the bounce.
I loved it though… getting spruced up, meeting friends, having a good old dance. I still go out just in a sober state and I have learnt to really love it! Recently I had a rather crazy time at Bongo’s Bingo, for those who have been you know what I am on about, for those who haven’t it’s random. One minute you are dancing on the tables, then bingo, then having a rave, then bingo, then doing the conga, then bingo, to top it all off S Club 7 where performing, but there was only 3 of them… yes it sounds like a dream but it was a real life experience… honest, I would highly recommend it. But you know me I‘m always working in some capacity and as I was dancing on the tables, raving with glow sticks, I thought how wonderful this be for families.
So a few months ago we launched our very own TF styley FAMBINGO! It was a sell-out, we had a great MC who got everyone up on their feet (not on the tables, health and safety hell), the prizes where mint (we even had a bike to give away and a cardboard cut-out of R2D2!). We had kids from as young as 2 on the dance floor whilst someone else was celebrating their 45 birthday! We played a crazy game of Birtley bike bell ball bingo… don’t ask!
So what I am ranting on about is… come!! Bring your fam, have a quirky night out, you can drink if you want to (we have a licensed bar), there will be lush food on offer, the kids will love it and get this…you will be home for 7pm, snuggled on the sofa with your pjs ready for Saturday night TV after having had a cracking time!
Next FAMBIMGO Saturday 13th 3-6pm, tickets are £6 for adults, £4 for kids, under 4’s are free, 3pm-6pm, book at TF or on Eventbrite.co.uk
*to lazily hang out- not laugh out loud or lots of love.
As you may know I have birthed 2 humans, Josephine 7 and Boadicea 5. I did not quite know what I was getting myself in for! Ha! No one told me! There was obvs lots to discover especially 7 years ago when I had my first… it was a mixed bag! There was the cesarean recovery, bleeding boobs (don’t ask), crazy emotions, not to mention being responsible for keeping a small human alive! On a positive what I hadn’t quite appreciated were the new friends I would make. During my pregnancy I joined yoga, where I met one of my bestest pals… bonus. Then there was Bosom Buddies at the wonderful and much needed SureStart to support my breastfeeding- I met lots of friends there too. I went to many baby groups including Piccolo Music, Lingotot, Spanish and rhyme time, which both my babes and I loved. Through my maternity leave I found my tribe who cared for each other, sure there was A LOT of baby talk, but there was the odd afternoon tea, nights out and even 2 weddings to celebrate together. These new humans in my life were my support system and the sleeplessness, tears and s**t would have been unbearable with out them.
I totally understand the positive impact other humans can have on your mental health, especially at vulnerable times, like pregnancy and maternity leave. I was and still am passionate to offer our space, Thought Foundation as a safe haven for everyone including parents and their young humans. The knowledge I gained during multiply outings with my 2 was the inspiration to set up the play spaces with Thought Foundation, including our huge sandpit and imagination station alongside offering our thought provoking exhibitions and wholesome food for everyone to enjoy.
Our audience of parents has grown over time encouraging us to come up with bespoke events like BORN- The Thoughtful Parenting Fair. We have teamed up with Holly from For Mama and Baba to curate and host a one-stop shop for bump, baby and beyond. On the 7th July 10-2pm Thought Foundation will be a buzz with a curated artisan market of local retailers offering locally made, ethically sourced and organic products for you and your tiny human. There will be lots of businesses who can support you on your parenting journey, from pre and post natal health, breastfeeding and baby wearing to massage and messy play! There will also be taster sessions and workshops for you try. It’s £2.50 entry (children are free), which includes a donation to our chosen charity; the Tiny Lives Trust which supports premature and sick babies, their mothers and families at the Special Care Baby Unit on ward 35 at the RVI Newcastle.
Thought Foundation has lots to offer parents on a weekly basis, as do many other venues in the northeast, the world is rich- you just have to get out there. Don’t be alone on your parenting journey, together is better.
NB- TF is for all humans, we try to offer something for everyone, we take time to create exhibitions, events and stuff that enrich experiences for as many people as possible.